Originally Posted by
lovehoops 
I feel like I can't stand up for myself and that I owe my family everything because they stayed with a drunken wife and mother. As a result, they often walk all over me. I realize, I allow it and I resent it.
That's exactly how I feel Lovehoops. And I don't know how to ask for what I need or how to set boundaries, because for many years I drank to numb my needs and feelings and kept going anyway.
They walked all over me but because I was drunk so it didn't hurt so much. I would be tired, overwhelmed, terrified...and I drunk and kept going.
Now I don't know how to ask, or set boundaries while sober. I feel like they don't care about me...when the truth is I have no clue how to ask...so I resent them.