Trachy, I think it's positive that your sis is handling things on her own. Hopefully she'll eventually find the strength to kick him out. It's not easy. I stayed in a really bad marriage for 15 years - and that was 14 1/2 years too long. Stupid now that I look back on it. Isn't hindsight wonderful! I'd be surprised if it no longer bothers you but it sounds like you are working on accepting what you can't change - and that's good for your peace of mind and doesn't hurt anyone. I know turtles don't always like hugs but this is for our favorite turtle (((Hug)))!