Funny, but recently I confronted my new bf about something he said and I was so afraid to bring it up. I was taking something way too personal. I actually told him that I was angry about what he said and I explained how I was taking it personal and that that part was on me. I asked him to explain what he meant so that I could understand it better. He did and he didn't seem phased by my request. He then told me, "Liz, if I had a real problem with you or with us, you'd know it. I'd tell you. I' m a very direct person so don't ever hold back. I have no issues with you, honestly."
That was an amazing thing to hear for me because I figured he'd have a few bones to pick by now. I know I had a resentment brewing but now that I've brought it up and communicated about it, it's over.
Healthy communication is something else, let me tell you! I have to work constantly, though, to use my tools and to break through my fears. It's always one day at a time for me.