The waiting until the last minute is my big thing too and in part it's because when I start things well in advance, I obsess to a debilitating degree over every bit of minutae and get NOTHING done...
I am so insecure I guess, in my own ability, that I work myself into a near frenzy in anticipation of things...
And I so see myself in my kids and use it as a major reminder of what I need to work on in my own recovery-- that's so true of me too...
It's amazing how much Im reading what feels like my own words in both your posts Lexie and Firesprite!