Hi East side, welcome to Soberrecovery
Your question is not an easy one to answer definatively but IOAA2 is right in suggesting visiting the Friends and Family thread for ideas
What I took from your post is that you want to quit alcohol but that you have a partner who drinks/uses
I would suggest that if it is possible I would seperate from your partner temporarily in order to give yourself the best chance of quitting (after all you do have a duty to yourself as well as others) I appreciate that isn't an easy thing but it would be good for you and maybe it would encourage your partner to change too