Im sorry to hear about this situation with
your family and yes as sad as it maybe to
reach out to total strangers in recovery
for help other than your family, many of
us have been there, done that same similar
situation as you.
It hurts most of all especially in families
where this illness lives and affects all whom
are involved and yet they become the ones
that don't understand, don't have the knowledge
of addiction other than being a gutter drunk,
broken down drinker, someone who has
lost it all, etc,
When I entered recovery 25 yrs ago, not
by my choice, but thru my husband and
family at that time, did an intervention on
me placing me into the hands of those
knowledgeable about addiction and was
able to teach me about it.
After my 28 day instay rehab, the ball
was in my court and it was my responsibility
to take what was taught to me and carry
on in my own recovery continueing to
learn healthy ways to remain sober one
day at a time. And I did and I have for many
one days at a time down the road.
My family of orgin, parent, siblings, spouse
and family whom Ive divorced from, remarried
today happier, healthier and honest for 6
yrs now, all of them figured that once I learned
to not drink anymore and that I was cured
and didn't need to depend on my AA recovery
program, the fellowship who has been my
constant support thru lifes ever changing
events.
I tried soooo many times over the past
yrs to explain it to them what and who
I am and what is needed for me to live
a sober life each day , with them not
understanding till I had had enough,
realizing that I cant make anyone understand
something they have no knowledge of
or understanding of.
Accepting them just as they are, letting them
go, moving on with my own life and placing
them into the Hands of the Man upstairs or
my HP = Higher Power, or God of my understanding
and upbringing, takes all that stress and burden
off my shoulders and can live my life for me
and what is good for me to remain sober each
day.
It was explained to me that in order for
the entire family to communicate, understand
each other and continue to grow as a healthy
family unit then all must be working some sort
of recovery program designed for each member
of the family.
In my case, my family, no one seemed
to want to work on this illness that affects
everyone and thus has separated, divorced,
split me from them as sad as it may sound.
Today, that is not my problem any longer
because I have moved on living life acceptable
to me and my life. A sober life worth enjoying
each and everyday Im healthy, happy and honest.
Do what will benefit you and ur well being
is all I can suggest to you and continue to
learn how others with this similar situation
in their lives and have found a solution that
works.
