Haha - I also am "boring, need to loosen up, am too serious, and can't have any fun." Crappy thing is, he's right....and I was never that way before ABF. I got some work to do there!
My relationship has sucked the life right out of me -a relationship with an alcoholic is no life. They are half there - either drinking or pissed off wanting to be drinking. Someone here has mentioned the 3 A's with regards to marriage for life - It is doable unless one of them are present (and many times if one is, all are.) Abuse, Addiction, Affairs.
Sending you strength and clarity - and lots and lots of self love. (((HUGS)))