This is a great section to read through Nyinabo. Many people are turned off for various reasons to AA. Many people take pieces of various programs to cobble a strong personal recovery. You do not have to be 100% in any particular program.
The Friends and Family CRAFT section is here. They have a chapter discussion thread there if I recall on one of the primary CRAFT books.:
Secular Connections for Friends and Family - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information