I try to create catastrophes where there are none. I also try to normalize things that are not healthy for me.
If there are things you think are red flags, they certainly may be. Direct eye contact and being involved with kids and others are important things to me. It sounds like you're taking a lot of really good steps within your program and this may be an uncomfortable phase of recovery. Stay spiritually, mentally and physically fit & balanced. If there is a possible issue and you're open to it, you'll be able to deal with it if the need arises.
No need to force solutions or fix a problem. All is as it is and your viewpoint on this will likely shift a bit if you give things time. You have and are developing good instincts.
