my codependent crazies kick in and start creating scenarios and drama where there probably needn't be any.
This is what I would focus in in recovery. Sounds like you're looking for problems since overall he seems like a good guy. It helped me to stop projecting and stop second-guessing other people. Do you trust and respect him? Does he treat you with respect? My therapist had good advice: "everyone has problems, it just depends on which we can live with, which we can't."