Originally Posted by
luvbugnat 
What he lacks is the excitement my ex gives me, the ability to make me laugh the way my ex does, the ability to give me butterflies. Seriously, this guy is tall, handsome, educated, attentive, economically stable.
After all that I've been through and learned with regard to alcoholism, NPD, and ASPD, if I were given a choice between one woman who is exciting/charming and another woman who is relaxed/stable, I would go for the relaxed/stable one every single time.
I know I'm generalizing here, but more often than not it's the ones who are highly charming and give you that 'swept off your feet' feeling that will give you problems down the road. Being charming isn't just something that people are born with, it's also a learned trait. People who have learned this trait will use it to their benefit to draw people close to them to fulfill their own desires, and two of the warning signs for a sociopath are: 1) can be highly charming, and 2) seek constant stimulation or excitement.