The best advice ive ever had on this subject was from Dee74 when i first arrived at SR i was 13 months and so many ppl were relapsing all around me
Dee simply told me relapse is part of my addiction not part of my recovery
It made so much sense heres the original link to when i asked this
Shoutout to D as this advice was super helpful
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...1-relapse.html