Liverpoollady - stay strong. If you cannot live with an active alcoholic, then you can't do it. There is nothing wrong with what you are doing.
Just know that you can't give him any more support to make him better. HE needs to be the one to initiate getting better. Only he can get the help he needs.
I gave my RAH a choice...a long term hotel or residential treatment program. I was going to pre-pay for the hotel for 2 weeks and stock it with some food and then leave him on his own. He chose rehab, but I was more than ready to drop him at that hotel and never look back. We have many issues now, if you read my posts but I can tell you that I gave him every ounce of support that I could and it never made any difference.
Stay the course and keep posting if you need support.
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