Originally Posted by
Butterfly 
I don't want her to move out but I won't live in my own home feeling anxious and scared to say anything, I won't go back to that, that was how I lived with ex a!!
Yes to this. How do they make us feel like we can't say anything right? You are spot on refusing to walk on eggshells in your own home any more.
I'm sure she will eventually grow out of this, but that doesn't mean she should get a free pass until she sees the light.