Day 13 :-)
Welcome CuteNGayNay & FrankLapidas & SillyBoy & CharliesWorld
I love the Kath Riechs series of books .. of course my home city Montreal &
South Carolina play in her stories so its a fun mix of culture.
Hang in there AmandaW
UpwardSpiral plan just today :-)
ForaBetterLife, I love exercise also ...I am doing Paul Mckenna just the 4
rules around eating it very managable.
I really like Allen Carr's book because it gave me a way to "talk back" to
the AV when it would say really silly things ...
I can tell it how its just all lies and consumer brainwashing that alcohol has
NO benefits,its ALL negatives, there was another thread I read on this site about
calling "********" on some of the things the AV says lol ot really a good read!
However the book doesn't address the underlying emptional issues that drive the need
to escape a given "feeling" and replace it with whatever buzz your drug of choice is.
Hence programs like 12 steps etec that has us dig to find the real why that got us
started in the firstplace.
For me I had a very unloving childhood filled with abuse etc ...
but the two most defining things I am learned was how expressing or even having
emotions was not acceptable in my family positive or negative, as a child and teen
food was my drug of choice then booze then both. ALso that I was undeserving of love
without tremondous service and sacrafice.
So I developed into an adult that had no tools to deal with my natural emotional states,
and a tremendous slave girl mentality of trying to make the world perfect for everyone
around me so I can be deserving of some love. I am still in the beginning of all this
and trying to "re-educate" myself into knowing that I am worthy of love just because
I am me and I am not responsible for making the world perfect for everyone.
I read a book called The WillPower Instainct which also helped tremendously it,
it teaches how to create the mental "space" needed in the right moments so you
can think and choose your actions instead of having a default pattern
run you, its really facinating.
Thought for the day ... I don't control everything so CHILL woman!
Have a great day everyone!