Originally Posted by
SansaS 
He can't understand the extremes of my personality. The 'all or nothing'. He can't understand why I need to stop drinking altogether instead of just getting a handle on it.
Haha, sounds like you are describing my wife and I, but in reverse. She has the off switch, is happy to have one drink when we go out to a restaurant and then switch to something non-alcoholic. I on the other hand have an 'on switch' and once I have a drink, it is on like Donkey Kong!
I have recently come to realise I only seem to have two modes. Completely obsessed with something, or completely uninterested in it.
Which works for us (me) when we are obsessed with sobriety, but as soon as that sobriety switch flips to 'completely uninterested' mode, all hell breaks loose.