just to add one thing i started to realize about myself in the last year with social interaction and confrontational situations or just tough situations my fear is because I always assume the worst. Wife mad? she'll probably walk out that door on me or kick the snot out of me or something. No thats not her at all. But my upbringing taught me that any little error on my part will be swiftly met with really harsh consequences as a result i walk on eggshells around people even when i dont have too I'm always afraid of the backlash basicly that probably will never come but I've got it all cooked up in my head by default.
I'm working on this trying to get my mind to not think this way.