I agree with FreeOwl. We aren't exactly a bed or roses either. When I read my posts that Scott directed me to last night, I thought about how my wife must think or deal with me when in that kind of funk. Horrible.
Also, and I am considering starting a thread on this, but selfishness is generally regarded as a negative trait. But I feel it is a requirement in early sobriety. It has to be. I think you have to build a barrier thick enough to gaurd Fort Knox around you so you don't succumb to temptation.