Yup, time on SR this weekend -- and probably lots of it -- sounds like a good idea, Jeff.
Lots of good, frank feedback here. The only thing I can add is that you've been honest about your wife having reached a point where she's let you know she's been pretty unhappy about the drinking. You're living in a second chance and that is something to bear in mind. Sounds like the stakes are high.
Hang in there. Play the tape forward. These things never end well, do they?
You can do this, Jeff.