Could you get your son a therapist? That way, he'll have a neutral person to help him deal with the issues at school, how to cope with the new family situation, and his own feelings.
For my kids, it was a lifesaver. Having an adult who isn't involved in the family, to just help them with their issues and feelings, was great. Not cheap, but worth it.
I know how you feel. Things are slowly working out for me, but I can't be a stay-at-home mom anymore, and I feel so guilty sometimes.
Other times, I think its' good that my co-dependent b.s. is out of the house more, so they can figure out some stuff independently, as teens need to do
