Hi Angela, well you've had a period of sobriety before so you are familiar with what it takes. It never ceases to amaze me that folks will convince themselves that one drink, or one night of partying won't be a problem and the next thing you know its been a month, 6 months, a year, and I've even read on here 8 years.
I try to avoid relationship advice, but I've been sober for a little while and I am thankful that my marriage has actually strengthened, BUT, since I have a backbone now because I am not ashamed of any of my behavior my wife and I have locked horns a little more frequently than before because I will stand up for myself. She is not used to that. Its nothing serious, but the dynamic has changed. Best wishes to you. First things first, sober up, get a clear head and keep marching forward, that's about all I can offer.