Originally Posted by
March1234 
Thx for the good message... Yes, I hope we are the exception. Im sure that I'm way more concerned about it than she is, because I haven't been really close to her in a long while. We are still new at getting back together, and while some things feels like we never left each other, some things and attitudes are totally different. She seems to take a cavalier attitude about the wine (maybe the wrong word), but she could take it or leave it. She enjoys wine with a dinner occasionally. We go out weekly (maybe more), and wine is the exception not the norm.
I would just like to be in the best position to have the knowledge to solve a problem, before it gets to be major.... any problem.
A couple of observations.
Absolutely anyone that is an alcoholic and has some sobriety will tell you moderation is impossible. What would make you think that she is the exception?
You are not going to solve her problem. Only she can do that. Your role is how you react to your circumstances