AMEN on all the gaslighting posts!!! Bahaha I should post this in "quackers", but...
My exAH's favorite is that, when he effs up AGAIN or I try to talk to him about what he's doing that's selfish, manipulative, etc...Or concrete things such as him being unemployed still (after over 6 months of his latest stint on unemployment) or not contributing around the house is this:
"Well, you knew that about me when you married me sooo..."
Soooo, what??! So that gives you carte blanche to be a manipulative, selfish douchecanoe??!
Totally gaslighting. And the best reason ever to keep on keeping on with the divorce. Because who wants to spend the rest of their life feeling completely insane?