I'm in a similar-ish situation.. Wouldn't it be awesome if we could just show our addict what makes them so great and how much they suck when they're using?!?! Is it just you n him? What is your support structure like? Obviously you have the therapist which I'm sure will continue to encourage you to remain strong.. If your addict is anything like mine-he will say exactly what he knows will hurt you the most... It doesn't sound like you're being a "bitch" as much as you are holding him accountable for his actions and your expectations of a partner...