Give him space. That's what his counselor advised; that's what he told you he needed. And give him space with no expectations for this week, next month, or a year from now.
I'm glad you're here -- and sorry you need to be. I didn't know a lot about alcoholism when I married an alcoholic, and the advice I got from people with experience rubbed me the wrong way. I thought my love and my strength was enough to save him. 20 years later, when I divorced him, I knew I had been so very wrong.
I think one question that's good for us to ask ourselves when we get involved with people with addiction problems is -- why do I find this person more attractive than a person without problems? Finding the answers within myself to that question taught me a lot, and helped me move on to a relationship without dysfunction woven into it.
