Totally typical, johnno. When drinking it is almost impossible to be happy or positive, and God forbid take any responsibility for the consequences of their actions.
Are you planning on a legal separation? Then you could communicate through attorneys.
You don't have to listen to him. When he is abusive say, "I'm not listening to your abuse any more." Then hang up. Protect your own peace and quiet. He doesn't get to rant at you about his terrible life. Just disengage.
I did that a couple times, then told him not to contact me. When he did, I hung up. He kept calling back. I called the police and they told him it could be charged as stalking and to leave me alone. That worked.