EndGame - yes you are right. I am struggling mightily with unresolved grief for my parents (yes, never dealt with dad's messy death and it's been 50 years ago. He was murdered in a hotel room. Never found the person/s), sister who was also murdered, and now my brother and extended family. How does one process all that? I need a lifetime of therapy and an array of psychiatric experts. so yeah, it is tough.