That's awful.I had something like that happen to me but not nearly as cruel.What I did was sever all ties to the person for 11 years..I said to myself f him and went along my way.We don't need people like that in our lives.As far as drinking,I can comment on this because I am a professional drunk...your using that as an excuse if not that then something else would come up in time..get back on it bro......Also send him a pic with the finger just your hand ,,,,,,,,,in a big fedex box.thats just me