Originally Posted by
LifeRecovery 
Aeryn-
Congrats and what a great thread.
I have been feeling alone in the not ready for a relationship, but wanting to be part of a child's life. I think it is very relevant topic for the forums. I was 34 when it all hit the fan, and am going to be 39 later this year.
I have not been struggling with letting a lot of things unfold, but sometimes this topic is a hard one for me to not "push" more and try to manage and control.
I have to have a very minor procedure (eye surgery) in the next month. It is minor but expensive and I can feel myself building up excuses for why this hairbrained idea of adopting might not be a good one (because I can't handle finances....though I have an ER account that will more than pay for this procedure).
I obviously still have some stuff to figure out....but I know I am much farther along than I was.
Thanks for starting this.
Just some food for thought...I'm two years older than you and I wish more than anything I had done this two years ago....for me I do not care about the debt I'm incurring this is that important to me to be a mom...hopefully. I do think if you really really want it it's worth the risk...just my humble opinion.
I think adoption is a great idea if that's what you really really want....for me I just incurred the cost and am letting the chips fall where they may...I might be disappointed if for some reason I can't have this baby but I will never regret trying. :-)