Trying to manage drinking is exhausted. I was completely exhausted at the end of my drinking days, so stopping drinking was a relief. I have never bothered about the label 'alcoholic' because it doesn't define me. I am many things - a mother, a grandmother, a wife, a friend, a co-worker, a volunteer and my addiction doesn't define me. If AA is not working for you, try something else. I use SR as my support and always have.