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Old 05-30-2015, 11:02 AM
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O.K.....somebody is going to have to say it.....so, I guess it will have to be me.

Slightly less than 8wks. is to soon to really know a person through and through. It is still in that "first impression /romantic attraction time".
Aware of it or not....there are bonding hormones at play. People are still on their sunday behavior.
Typically, it is somewhere between 6months and a year that the rose-colored glasses come off enough to begin to make realistic judgements.

I believe that one has to be willing to "throw the fish back" for at l east the first 18mo. of a relationship--if signs of dysfunction (in either party) show up.
Many a bad relationship has been made (divorce rate hovering near 50%) in haste...
What I am saying is--no "permanent hires," Consider this purely probationary period.
You just never, never, know what might crawl out from under the rocks.

If it is o.k.---then, no problem......but, time will tell you that.....

This is what I have learned in a long lifetime---I realize that not everyone will look at it this way....

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