Thanks guys.
It's just odd that we have to fight the AV in our own heads, along with the people in our lives that want to tell us we're fine and don't have a problem. Helpful to come here to get out of my head for a minute.
I do think Jeff has a problem. He is not a daily drinker like myself, he may not drink first thing in the morning or go on 3 day long weekend binges...but in my opinion he does have a problem.
But that is neither here nor there. I will stay focused on myself. I am looking forward to my AA meeting tomorrow and in fact am thinking I will call one of the nice ladies who gave me their number tonight.