My ex fiancé's words to me after I left: "I don't have a problem. You ruined my life by leaving and telling my family everything I did. You just wanted an excuse to leave. Everything that happens to me now is your fault."
What she didn't get was that her behavior is what caused me to leave, and I wouldn't have left if she wasn't doing things to destroy our relationship. Also, she wants me to think that I'm fully responsible for her behavior after I left, even though she's a human being capable of independent thought. It's impossible to understand someone who is insane because they don't think rationally.