Originally Posted by
Stratman1 
Big topic alright. I see that a lot here can relate and that's reassuring. I'm in a similar boat as you ArtFriend, it's a very confusing one for me.
It's not something that I haven't done countless times before either, some questions are: how do you forgive people who never apologized?
Who never acknowledged what they did, let alone ask forgiveness. Somebody said it is about forgiving yourself but I am even worse at that.
I don't think forgiving is about forgiving yourself, but you forgive FOR yourself. Make sense? It is not about the other person. And I think one can forgive even tho the offender never apologized or acknowledged what they did. But, like you, it is hard to come to terms sometimes.
This link may help Strat -
Understanding forgiveness | This Emotional Life