Z, I find my anger really takes hold when there is something that needs to be done about a situation.
I can understand that you've made huge changes, quit drinking, remodeled your home (and it sounded like you were at least trying to honor your wife's taste in so doing...) and yet, I'm assuming there is no change in your relationship.
I hope you will not act in anger, but obviously some discussion is necessary.
Or maybe you don't want to discuss this here. If so, apologies.