Originally Posted by
Dee74 
I'm glad you gave the wine away
do you think you're the 'go to gal' at least in part expecting something back Art?
I'm not criticising - I was like that too for most of my life.
It pretty much ensures a lasting resentment tho?
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I think you hit the nail on the head. I have always subjugated my needs and thought of others first. I did it willingly, hoping that I could make a difference and I really never thought about myself...until the past few years. And yes...it causes resentment when others are too self involved or think I am "just fine". No one can read between the lines? I am too proud to ask for help (except for online forums like this where no one knows who I am). I drop "clues" every so often... but no one picks it up. Damn. I am not a martyr...altho I am beginning to sound like one.
Dee - so how did you overcome this?