H,A,L,T
You know the acronym ?
Sometimes to get the things we want we have to express those needs to people .
When i got sober i wondered why i didn't then have normal relationships with those people important in my life ..
What i realised is that i'd been drunk for so long that not being in touch and non-comunication was the "normal" for me because i was drunk and absent most of my life .
It might take some time and some diligent work to change the way things are but people soon get used to the "new normal" .
I think it will take some time and some work, there are no magic answers in that bottle , only a temporary trip away from the anxiety and hurt that alcohol caused and will cause again if you let it .
Bestwishes, big inter-web hug, m