Is sobriety something that YOU want? Like, honestly really, really want? Or is this because your husband gave you an ultimatum? You talk about the physical sides of the effects of alcohol. Do you think these are the reasons he's giving you the ultimatum, or does it run deeper than that?
I'm asking because getting sober is really tough, with or without detox drugs, and it helps to have our reasons for fighting for it clear in our heads before we go into battle.
As Sasha says, there are other ways than AA. (You say you're not a fan of AA - does this mean that this is something that you have tried in the past?)
Good luck with it all.