ishallnotwant, I was going to mention the same thing!
I like the big book (not so much aa)
Until I really sat down and thought about it, I didn't realize that my want for control was my selfishness a lot of the time. Now every time I get frustrated that things aren't going my way I take a minute to think about why everything needs to go my way in the first place. Am I actually right and justified or am I just being selfish?
Meditation can be a good tool as well. Sometimes if I can manage that, even just for 5 minutes, I don't care as much when I come back to the situation.