I was my mom's care giver as well. She was living with me when she died. I am grateful that I was with her at that time, when she breathed her last breath, yet it was incredibly painful too. About 2 hours later I got the call about my grandmother passing. Ironically too, that date happened to be my dad's birthday as well as their wedding anniversary!
Thank you for the ideas and support. I guess many of us are facing the same thing.