Hi Bob:
I'm sorry that you are in this tough situation. I don't want to scare you, but I have seen women do this before to get back at their partner. I will suggest to you to record her while she is spitting all these nasty things. If you have a smart phone you can do it easily. It might be sneaky but these threats are no joke. You need to protect yourself. You also need to share this with someone you trust so that they can vouch for you in the future. Active alcoholics have a very volatile temper and they were do things without thinking even if it hurts her own son. I am glad you found us and I hope that you have the strength to go through this situation.