Originally Posted by
KissMyTiara 
First off you have "diagnosed" her alcoholic. I don't think you can do that. Certainly it sounds like she has a drinking problem. But people that are not drinking view drinking in different ways.
Regardless, can you convince her to go to counseling with you. I think that is your starting point.
Indeed. I think the implied threats form her do warrant a legal discussion as well. Part of my "diagnosis" comes from her taking incredibly rash actions whenever I hit on a nerve involving the drinking. That and the hiding it... We used to consume alcohol together - wine, cocktails, socially and yeah, sometimes get blotto when we were younger and not parents. I do still "consume" when I want, but in pretty strict moderation. ANyway, your pont is well taken.
PS (and I am not being sarcastic here) - How does one obtain a valid diagnosis of alcoholism?