Yea, I show you ya grump......I'll hurt me! Mad at you so I'll hit me with the bat.......know that routine.
Maybe after a bit a discussion out of the house - perhaps a lunch date or something would underline the importance of clearing things up.
Sober time helps a lot of things, but not all things.........open communication is indeed necessary and sometimes one cross up in signals and both parties just shut down and run for cover.
Glad your here!