Completely under stand. In fact in some of my failed attempts to be sober I used it as a reason to drink.
"Well if he is going to act and treat me like this, why the hell am I staying sober." I've come to realize that even though it doesn't seem fair in the least. You take out your pains on the ones you love the most. I agree with LBrain about waiting to talk to him until you feel strong enough in your sobriety. I'm not sure about you but one of my biggest pet peeves is when my husband constantly brings up my past drinking while I'm trying to currently stay sober. " I get it, I was a drunk. Can we not move past this?"
I hope things get better with your husband. Continue to stay strong!