At the heart of enabling, there is a feeling that just one more time of helping the addict will make all the difference ... What does this mean? The enabling parent feels that THIS TIME things will be different. "If I just help them out this one LAST time".
Yes! This was me. I always thought that "this time it will be different...this time he REALLY WANTS to get clean".
There were probably a hundred "this time's' for me before it got through that I wasn't the cure for my son's addiction, in fact I deterred his need to find a better recovery system.
Not even a mama's love can save an addict who is not looking to get clean.
That's a sad reality for many of us.
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