There's some excellent advice here Serenidad. You can't avoid conflict - that what we tried to do for years as drinkers.
We can change our reactions to it tho. I used to be almost physically sick with conflict but over time, I've gotten better - it's not my favourite thing, still, but I can take it in my stride now.
I guess the change for me was trying hard to see things in perspective - how important is this this conflict? am I right? if so, can I resolve it without losing my self respect or my beliefs?
If you can't then it's best to walk away - go for a run or a bike ride or something - exercise really helps me calm down.
It's just another life skill to learn. If it really freaks you out tho, I agree that counselling could help.
The one thing that definitely won;t help is booze. You may *feel* like a drink but you don't need to act on it
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