Haennie... I am only still in early sobriety....but....I want to add - 'yes, yes, and yes again' to what you say (so eloquently) in your post. Much of it (i believe) is simply true. I agree there are no distinct entities sober or drunk within us...
Artfriend...i feel the journey is to learn to somehow recalibrate our sense of who we are - made up from who we were before the alcohol dependence, who we were in the terrible midst of it, and how we can learn again to be and feel enough of who we are when they inevitably merge ( in sobriety). But...in the process of this journey - us becoming kinder to ourselves and to the world in which we live. At least this is my own aim...
Right now though? ...I am one tetchy, ruffled-up lady...coping not so well with the emotional turbulence of finding sober feet to walk on, which hopefully...in time - will allow me to 'dance' more through life