I'll make a suggestion, if only because nobody takes it. Pre-marriage counseling. Most people refuse to go because they're afraid of a negative outcome, i.e., that they'll arrive at the realization that in order for the marriage to work, significant changes need to be made. And no one in the throes of addiction is prepared or willing to make the major changes that are necessary in order to have a balanced, healthy relationship.
A wedding is a single event, no matter how much planning goes into it, and prepares no one for the challenges of a mature relationship.
The only other thing I'll say is that when in a relationship with an active addict or alcoholic, we know very little -- perhaps nothing at all -- about the person we're with. This is a constant that never changes.
Your Marriage Counselor Can Predict Whether Or Not You'll Divorce. Here's How Edit: We do know
a lot about our active partners...such as what they are and what they can become when they're drinking.