(((Jessica)))),
Sounds like you're really working through this... so good to hear. One of things I have to CONTINUALLY remind myself is that when I try and guess what's going on in B's head... I'm generally doing just that GUESSING. And with guessing comes alot of ASSUMING... and we all know that to assume... makes an A$$ out of U and ME! Doh!
It is hard though, because when I just ask him (instead of assuming) he sometimes comes back with, "You know me. Why would you ask that?" "Well B, I guess I don't know you and that's WHY I asked!" When I assume what I think he may/may not do or think, I tend to be the one who ends up hurt. I guess it comes back to MY expectations of what I would WANT him to do/say/think. They tend to be (very) different than what he really does.
You're doing great! Big hugs to you!
Shannon