My thought is this : Once they post here, no matter how they word it, they are taking personal responsibility. They are opening up, on a public forum and saying, " I have a problem". My god, that is huge. The accounting of wrongs done comes. The owning up and amends comes. But to take that first step of telling their story and saying"What do I do now?" Should never be discounted.
One of my first posts asked "how much of this is me and how much is the alcohol? What do I take blame for and who am I amid all of this?"
It's a process. Not everyone gets there the same way or with the same timeline. But we're all fighting to get there.